Appearance:
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Looks MatterDo not underestimate the importance of your child's appearance. The way your child looks is often the first thing people notice about you and your parenting, so it is essential to invest some thought into what you want it to say about you.
This page provides some helpful hints and different approaches to this broad topic. Done right, your child's appearance will send out a clear message about you. |
Getting Under the Skin: What to Look Out For
Using Your Child's Looks to Undermine their Self-Worth
Ongoing snide comments and criticism of your child's appearance will have a huge impact on their lifelong self-esteem! Use this knowledge to maintain the power balance in your relationship and ensure that your child does not get foolish ideas about their value as a person.
Only point out aspects of their appearance that you deem unacceptable, and downplay any positive comments made by unwitting outsiders.
Only point out aspects of their appearance that you deem unacceptable, and downplay any positive comments made by unwitting outsiders.
Whichever approach you choose, it is important to identify and point out sore spots your child has concerning their appearance. Visible imperfections are an affront to you and the child should be held responsible. Here are some factors to look out for and berate whenever you feel dissatisfied with your child:
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Weighty Matters
Your child's body weight and shape is a heavy topic that warrants a whole section of its own! This is an area where many children defy their parent's wishes and projected image, bloating out of its confines or shrinking away to nothing under your expectations.
Whether your child is obese, underweight, bulimic, anorexic or otherwise not conforming to your weight expectations, it is clear that they are attempting to fight out a battle against you, using their body as a weapon. Sometimes children just do not have their best interests at heart or lack the discipline required to make them perfect. You may need to step in with special oversight and strict regimes to counteract such developments. |